5 things I learned from moving with toddlers

I think we can all agree that moving is not an easy task, and can actually be quite stressful, especially when you have kids. We have three young boys, and have moved twice in the past two years, so I thought I'd share some of the things that we found made moving smooth and stress free – for us and for our kids. 

1. First things first, tell them early

Children get curious, they want to know everything, especially when it has to do with their environment. I encourage you to explain to them several things, such as: why you have to move? When and how it will happen?

Answer any questions that they come up with. There is a lot going on inside their heads. If it is their first time moving, don't expect them to understand how things will happen instantly, so make sure to tell them what to expect, in detail, and expect to have to tell them again.

2. Discuss with them what you need to declutter 

Decluttering is an important step before packing. There might be furniture you no longer use. Utensils, things stored in the garage and toys that your kids have outgrown. You can list them on community re-purpose sites, sell or donate. But kids get very attached to ‘stuff’, so it will help if you step them through an explanation of why it is time for that toy to go. A strategy I have used is “You are a big boy/girl now and that toy is for a little kid.

Another child really needs it. Would it be ok to give it to that boy or girl?” Ask them to agree so they can part from it with a good feeling. Don't dismiss any feelings they may have about it – acknowledge their sadness.

Perhaps even tell them you will replace it with a new toy in the new house. A special moving present. 

3. See if they can stay with friend or family during packing and the moving day

Apart from the stress, it is a busy time as well. Packing is a big job and normally not something kids can help with. And the moving day will have removalists walking in and out with furniture, fridges and heavy boxes. Not a good place for children to get in the way. Why not organise a play date with a friend or a visit to a cousin? Give them a good day and avoid them being under your feet. We had a couple of friends and family over to watch the kids while we packed. We moved on a regular daycare day, so there was minimal disruption to their routine. 

4. Set up their new room similar to their old one

It is hard to leave a house you call home, and a bed you’ve had forever (especially if you are a child). You can make it easier by setting up your child's new room similar to their old one. It will help them adjust to the new environment. Not 100% identical of course, but look fit ways to make sure there are similarities, like using the same wall colour, or a certain blanket you child is very fond of. They just need to feel at home. Some of the same pictures on the wall, same books on the shelves.

5. Be positive and excited 

In my experience, kids mirror the emotions and attitudes of their parents. Kids tend to get moody when their parents are angry or stressed. It is important to be positive and excited for this whole "moving" thing. After all, you should be! Although packing and leaving a house you called home for years is a big job and can make you a little bit sad, remember better things are on the way! You and your little ones will see new places and get to know new people, which is a new start for you and your family. 

Final thoughts 

To make your move with children as stress free and smooth as possible, remember to take your time and free your mind of anxious thoughts. Happy moving!